how I thought of it all last night and it made sense to me...
Its like a flower that's growing, not yet in bloom - going through the natural process of become a stalk from a seedling, a stem from a stalk, then a blossom, and on to full flower - but the whole time the seedling is reaching and wanting to be the bright big open rose, never realizing that the growth happens naturally, that the little blossom can simply be - the blossom - and relax, because it also will flower to full bloom in due time.
Be the blossom, and not worry about opening up into a full-blown flower, because everything happens in due course.